Be What She Wants

On an online dating service, the first email is EVERYTHING.

This is how you will contact the woman you probably want to date in the future, and how you’ll make sure that she’s the kind of woman you want to actually go out with, depending on her response.

Make sure you use her profile. If you don’t, you have only yourself to blame for her lack of response. The vast majority of women who respond to a first dating service message do so because the person who emailed them mentioned something about their profiles.

The first email should be basic.

This is not the email where you have to “wow” this woman. You’re just using it to initiate contact, so make sure you don’t come off too h2 or too intensely for a first email.

All you need to do is tell this woman what interested you about her, and make it something about her profile rather than her looks. That makes her feel like you’re paying attention, and you’re someone that doesn’t just go for the first pretty face he sees.

After that, tell her just a little bit about yourself. This shouldn’t be your life story, but it should be anything you think is absolutely imperative that she know before agreeing to go out with you.

Leave an offer to email you back.

This doesn’t have to look like, “Please email me back!” it can be a simple, “Hope to hear from you soon,” or even a question or test that you’ve offered her in the body of your email. The important thing has to be that you’re leaving yourself open to be contacted by her, and she’ll know it.

A lot of men stress about what to say to women online.

The stress is, for the most part, unnecessary. The first dating service message doesn’t need to be stressful, and it certainly doesn’t need to be as stressful as most men consider it.

Just find a common ground with this woman. She’s going to be looking for the same thing.