If you’re lucky enough to have a local sex club, you’ve probably checked it out at least once or twice. Popularly known as swingers clubs or lifestyle clubs, these locations can range from the seedy to the classy, with the latter often having fully-stocked dungeons and playrooms as well as other benefits available to anyone who’s willing to pay the cover to get in.

The Cost of Pleasure

“Enjoy the ambiance”

The problem for a swinging gentleman like yourself, is that they can be quite expensive, especially for single men. Clubs like this often charge on a sliding scale depending on how desirable you are as a customer. Many clubs actually will prefer that you join as a member of a couple, bringing your girlfriend along. Single women often pay the least, followed by couples, and the highest rates are paid by single men. This is to their advantage, as it cuts down on the number of men who are showing up in the hope of finding someone who’s willing to spend the night with him for less than an escort or a hooker would cost.

This is also to your advantage. The club is actually doing some of your work for you. By cutting down on the number of creeps in the club, they are increasing the comfort level of the women inside. The more comfortable the women are, the less work you have to put in to get over that initial “new guy” wall and get them to talk to you.

If you’re worried you’ll feel tied down going to a sex club with a girlfriend, please don’t. These are called swingers clubs for a reason. It’s expected that you and your girlfriend may stray from each others’ sides during the night. Some people will even find it strange if you don’t! You want to discuss your expectations ahead of time, of course, but if she’s willing to go with you in the first place, you shouldn’t have trouble getting on the same page.

Now What?

“Have some drinks at the bar inside sex club”

So you’re in the door, and you’re wondering now what. The first rule is not to be shy. This is a place where negotiation and communication are foreplay and no one will think you’re rude if you ask them if they want to have sex with you. Hanging around like a nerd at a high school dance just makes the whole evening a waste of money.

If you’re not sure where to start, many clubs will have shows or demonstrations. If there aren’t organized demonstrations, there will almost certainly be those fellow patrons who enjoy an audience. Feel free to wait for a break in the action and ask if you can be “next in line” if you see something that looks like it’s up your alley.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that you have to behave yourself and stick to the rules. Nothing is a bigger waste of money than getting kicked out of a club before you’ve even gotten your belt off because you couldn’t take no for an answer. If someone’s not interested, just move on. You’re in a club full of swingers, after all. Go swing.