Come on, we’re guys. Obviously sex is on our mind most of the time. Despite popular belief, it’s also what women think about a lot of the time. So why are men cast as sex-crazed fiends? Because we care less about the build-up than the actual orgasmic event. Women on the other hand, tend to be all about the build-up. And why is this important for us to know? Because if you like hot sex, we guarantee you’ll like the even hotter sex you’ll get by giving her some amazing foreplay.

Risk Is Sexy

It’s a fact that if you’re both turned on but trapped in a public place, there is nothing more arousing than teasing each other in little ways. The risk of being caught along with the fact that you can’t do anything about your urges can be extremely titillating. So when you’re stuck at a party for her parents’ anniversary and you want nothing more than to take her home and give it to her, try a little foreplay. When you’re standing in an embrace or side by side, slide your fingers into her pants. You don’t need to perform a full on grope, just ghost your fingers over the tops of her thighs or her abdomen to get your point across. Little discreet touches that border on not being discreet can drive you both crazy, and when you’re able to leave, she’s not going to be able to keep her hands off you.

Restraint Is Sexy Too

“Restrain her arms while you kiss her”

Not those kinds of restraints, although they’re sexy as well. We’re talking about the kind of restraint that you exercise when you’re aching for the big finish and you know she is too. And what better way to show some restraint than when you’re giving your woman a very thorough, very slow full body massage while you’re both naked? If you’re really good, you’ll have her writhing under your hands while she begs for you to let her have it. Yeah, you’re only torturing yourself, but by the time you’re ready to get down to business, she’s going to be hotter for you than ever.

Kiss and Tell

“Kiss her on the ears and the neck”

It’s a no-brainer that kissing is a major part of foreplay. It’s how you kiss, though, that can make all the difference. Instead of going for deep tongue action, try covering her neck and bare shoulders with kisses. In between kisses, tell her what you want to do to her and what you want her to do to you. Most women have very sensitive necks, so it’s paying special attention there that will likely get her revved up. You can focus on other parts of her body too to intensify her anticipation. Keep telling her what you’re thinking about as you progress to really keep things intense.

Foreplay doesn’t have to be all about getting her in the mood. It can be about getting you in the mood too. If you dial up the anticipation for both parties, it’s going to be that much better when it’s time for the main event.