Hey, most guys like it kinky. In fact, for many of us, the kinkier it is, the better, but now your girlfriend or spouse has dropped a bombshell that you never saw coming: she wants to peg.

Maybe you’re not familiar with the term, in which case you’re more confused than alarmed. Allow us to explain. Pegging is a sexual activity where a woman, wearing a strap on dildo penetrates a guy anally. Yeah. So now while you’re wrapping your brain around that while protectively tightening your sphincter, let us explain some more.

Pegging doesn’t make you gay, it also isn’t a hit to your masculinity. The first thing you’ve got to realize is that it’s a shared sexual experience. She’s doesn’t want to do it to subjugate you, she wants to take your sex life to a new level. It’s a psychological thrill as much as it is a physical one, and it can be very, very good.

Obviously, if you’re more horrified than intrigued by the subject, it’s probably not for you and that’s okay. Everyone has their limits and there’s no shame in that. If you’re curious and even a little turned on by the thought, it’s time to learn some more before you take that very large step into a new realm of sexual exploration.

Be Safe

“Pegging can be fun and sexy”

It doesn’t matter if it’s the woman or the guy on the receiving end, there’s a certain degree of caution required when proceeding with anal sex. Above all else you want to be safe. So yeah, if it’s your ass (literally) on the line, you’re going to want to take all the necessary precautions to ensure your first attempt at pegging doesn’t become the stuff of nightmares.

When it’s time to choose a strap-on harness, finding one that fits right is very important. A harness that is too large can make penetration unnecessarily difficult. The same applies to a harness that’s too tight, and when it comes to the strap-on component. You’re obviously going to want a dildo that isn’t too large. For a beginner attempt at pegging, smaller is going to be better. And if you find that you like this new activity, you can always gradually progress to a bigger size.

Pegging also requires a liberal amount of lubrication. If you’re new to anal penetration, this is incredibly important. The more lube, the better.

Set Boundaries

“Know your limits and talk about them in advance”

If you’ve agreed to let your girlfriend or spouse peg you but you’re really unsure about the whole thing, set up some boundaries. Explain your concerns. She needs to know that you might not be okay with everything once it’s started. If you’d like, set up a safe word like you would with some bondage play, that way, if you’re in pain or just really not enjoying yourself, you can let her know instantly. It’s also a good idea to tell her to go slow. Chances are she’ll already do it that way, but it never hurts to clarify. If you’re ready for a faster pace once you’re used to it, all you have to do is let her know.