For most men, while they enjoy sex and are going to be happy whenever they can get it. With all that, they don’t want the same boring vanilla sex over and over with a woman who doesn’t ever want to venture outside of the box. Sometimes the problem seems to be that even women who are mature and confident in their sexuality know what they want but don’t want to share anything exceptionally kinky with the man they’re with out of fear that he’ll judge them. Don’t be the type of guy who judges women based on what they want in the bedroom. Instead, ask her if there’s anything outside the box that she’d like to try. If she still seems a little hesitant to say what she wants in particular, try recommending any of these kinks. They’re some of the most common and might be a great way to ease into doing other kinky things with her.
While this is technically considered a kink, it’s one of the tamest ones on this list. It’s just as it sounds: drawing on your body. Since you don’t want to get clothes dirty, you’ll both take them off and then you can use body paint or certain types of foods. There’s something very sensual in dipping a brush in body paint and smoothing it up her thighs and around her breasts, and if she’s letting melted chocolate drip down your stomach for her to lick up when she goes down on you, you’re bound to have a good time. We don’t recommend using actual paint, though.
This is a fantasy for quite a few women. There’s something sexy about acting a part and getting to say and do something that you wouldn’t normally say. Role-playing can be something as simple as dressing up in costumes and pretending to be in a certain situation or something with a long and detailed plot line that she’s fantasizing about for a while. A good way to start up a conversation about this is to ask her what her biggest sexual fantasies would be, and to go from there.
This is one of the most common kinks that women have that they don’t really consider being a kink. Typically they just consider it as something they like and that’s it. Spanking is great because it can be done gently for just a little pain and pleasure stimulation or a little rougher and it fits into quite a few role-playing scenarios. If she likes it when you use your hand to spank her, you can consider using floggers or crops if she wants to work up to something a little rougher.
A little more towards the seriously kinky side of the spectrum than others on this list, BDSM is something that over half the population wants to try or has tried with a previous partner, even if they won’t admit it. The idea is alluring, and a man and a woman can be a dom or a sub at different points, so there’s opportunity to try a lot of new things before you figure out where you want to go with it.